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Hello.  I am Selma Cobb Dean.   The legendary John Lennon wrote, “One thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside.”  However, you do not have to remain crippled inside forever. You can experience freedom inside by renewing your mind. I did. Here is my story.

Toxic emotions can begin in childhood.  For many years, I wore a brave face to disguise my many layers of emotional pain. Fear and shame were among the harmful emotions that followed me from childhood into adulthood.

We learn to cope with emotional pain.  I was great at coping. Years could go by without my acknowledging the hidden, emotional pain. Unfortunately, it eventually manifested again through depression. Through my faith, counseling, and medication, I learned to manage the depression. But the cycle never stopped.

We already have access to healing within us.  Several years ago, my mother-in-law encouraged me to go “deeper” in my spiritual life. It would be years later that I would apply her wisdom to my emotional dysfunction. Wanting to do more than just cope, I also began seeking emotional healing through my spirituality (Emphasis on spiritual and not religion).

Transformation happens.  I took the first step of healing by admitting my problem with fear.  Next, who or what was big enough to trust with my healing? I turned to God. Finally, I began to practice by taking small steps to dismiss my fears. For example, I learned to respectfully disagree and say “no” without the fear of rejection.

It worked! The lethal emotions that once plagued me are continually being replaced with healthier emotions. Today, I am one who has experienced wonderful transformation through emotional healing. I am excited about living out my purpose more than ever! This includes helping you to transform your toxic emotions into a healthy and positive state of mind.

 Join our team.   So, here we are. I am a trained, spiritual counselor and experienced educator. My daughter, Vashti Dean,img_6956 joins me in this team effort. She brings to us her expertise in internet technology and is our programs coordinator. Vashti also has a powerful testimony of healing that she will share with you later.

You or someone you love are experiencing defeat and pain from toxic emotions or negative thinking. We invite you to join our team. We want to help you to transform a life governed by toxic emotions to a life filled with peace, purpose, and positive energy.

Emotional healing is possible for you. Welcome home.

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  1. When I read the reference to your mother-in-law, I cried. She tried to teach us what was important in life. I did not listen. I am glad you did, and you are now using it to help us. Thanks for loving, honoring and remembering our mother.

  2. I am so proud of you, Selma. You are the cream of crop. You are wonderful. You are beautiful. You are a strong, virtuous woman. I am so proud to be your friend and Sister-In-The Lord. All of that table-talk you gave me years ago is being spread around the world. Let the Lord continue to use you.

    Love Sharon

    • Hello Sharon! It’s so great to hear from you! Thanks for your kind words and most of all for taking me under your wings as your little sister. Love you!