How to Give Better Love and Care for Others

Are you selfless? You probably spend a lot of energy making your bosses happy. You spend most of your time making your families comfortable. Without a doubt, you are a loving and caring person.

But there is a problem that happens too often with loving, caring people like us. We become so selfless that no “self” is left for us.

There is a better way to love and care for others. Start by putting you first.

You, body, mind, soul, spirit - a mind map for personal growth

Should you always put yourself first? Not literally. However, your spiritual, physical, and emotional well-being must become a priority.  By practicing excellent self-care, you will think clearer and have more energy to care for others.

Devote some time each day to care for your spirit, mind, and body. There is no one way to do this. You have to discover what best works for you.

Here are the 3 priorities for putting you first. 

  1. The Spiritual You– Start each day with prayer and meditation. Talk to God about your problems and concerns for the day.  Trust God for guidance with your tasks and decisions.
  2. The Emotional You– Whatever is going on in your mind drives your emotions.  Let go of past hurts and disappointments by practicing forgiveness. If necessary, find a professional to help you let go of emotional pain. Find a way to relax each day.
  3. The Physical You– Practice good health habits each day. Eat healthier. Get a regular exercise routine. Get enough sleep. Start by making small changes and set goals for yourself.

one woman with her eyes closed

Finally, …

You deserve to be your best self.  The people you love and serve will greatly benefit from a healthy and stress-free you!

Question: What changes have you made recently to take better care of you?  You can leave a comment by clicking here.


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  1. Yes I was recently hospitalized due to mt foot pain. As a diabetic I really haven’t been eating healthy. I have changed my eating habits because I want to be here for my family.

  2. Good post! I get so busy with caring for my family that my I come last. This reminds me that I need to take care of myself so I can take care of others better.

  3. I enjoy helping others and I was always awailable, for my family, my friends, people I don´t even know. My day was filled with doing things for others. Just call me ( my phone was always next to me ) and I will be there for you. I forgot about myself and my needs, I was very stressed and had emotionell and health problems. So I took some time off and visited a friend. I stayed there for 3 weeks, I took walks, I meditated and I was thinking about my life.
    Now I am back home, I still use my phone, but I don´t let my phone use me. I turn it off several hours a day and I take time for myself everyday. I feel much better about myself and about my life.

    • Thanks Kordula. Many of us have become slaves to the phone. Thanks for letting us know that we should use the phone and not let the phone use us> God bless. Much love to you.