and what to do or say instead!
Snap out of it! If you are suffering from depression, it’s some of the worse advice you can get. If you are attempting to help someone with depression, it’s one of the worse things you can say. Why? Read on.
Depression is a serious illness. It can be life-threatening. According to WebMD, if someone has the following symptoms for two weeks or more, it could be depression.
- Feeling sad, hopeless, or tearful nearly every day.
- Loss of interest or not getting pleasure from most daily activities that they used to enjoy.
What do you say to someone with depression? Here are 4 comments to avoid, and some suggestions for what to do or say instead.
1. This is just a phase. It will pass soon. Yes, it is a phase, but it may not pass soon. In fact, without treatment, the depression could get worse.
Instead, you can say, “I hope you feel better soon,” or “How can I help you?”
Instead, try encouraging him or her to see a doctor (Matthew 25:36, Philippians 2:4).
2. Just give it to God. They have. People dealing with depression are desperate for help. They may even question their faith because of their feelings of defeat. Worse, some religious groups may equate mental illnesses such as depression as demonic.
Try reminding the depressed person she is dealing with an illness. Reassure her of God’s love for her. Offer to pray for her or with her (James 5:14-15, Psalm 41:3).
3. Happiness is a choice. Given a choice, no one would choose depression over happiness. Depressed people struggle daily to put on a happy face, but they are hurting deep inside.
Try allowing them to share their feelings freely and openly. Be careful. Do not try to talk them out of their feelings. However, if they are having suicidal thoughts, call 911 immediately. Reassure them they can choose to get well (Proverbs 17:22, Psalm 147:3).
4. You should get out more. On most days, depressed people struggle to get out of bed. Their appearances may begin to suffer. They may not have the energy to keep the house clean. They can become withdrawn.
Again, encourage the depressed person to see their doctor. Better yet, offer to drive him there (Matthew 9:12, Jeremiah 8:22).
Finally…There is life after depression! You can read about my struggle with depression at my blog, How Healed Emotions Causes Transformation.
Some links are listed below that will help you determine if what you or your loved one is going through is actually depression.
Families for Depression Awareness
Depression Screening Test (PsychCentral)
Depression Health Center (WebMd)
Depression: major depressive disorder (Mayo Clinic)
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